Married this Saturday.....

Well people, I'm now in KL, preparing for my coming wedding this Saturday.

What do I think about getting married?

Well, I look forward to get married. It's high time i settle down, be more responsible, and again, i do this in His name.

But what do i think about the process OF getting married?

TIRING. TAAAAI EEEEEE RRRRIIIIIINNNGGGG.

At one point, you just tell yourself... come oooon let's just get married already!!!

What advice do i have for you guys? here you go.

1. Never think money is THE biggest problem in the process of getting married. a wise man once told me that those who say that, they definitely have never gotten married. biggest problem would comme from the families. muehehe.

2. Patience... a whole shit load of it. at one point you would just want to run to a corner and brush your teeth, cook an egg, watch tv, eat cookies, and then cry yourself to sleep. but trust me, you need it.

3. start saving. unless you're a trust fund baby, then you can ignore this rule. simultaneously, there will always be last minute need of extra cash, both marriage related and non. example, car insurance, tax, last minute addition of wedding attire, house loan, etc.

4. Pray and pray. pray a lot, understand your responsibility as a husband and father, son, son in law. sometimes it may be overwhelming, but trust me, with a lot of thought, prayers, you'll see things clearer, you'll be more confident. cheesy as this may sound, its as true as it is.

5. your family and close friends matter. no matter how the situation goes, your family and your friends will always be there for you to make things better and take you through the thick and thin.

6. lastly, savor every moment of it. it'll be the experience of your life, and definitely an experience you'll be sharing with the people around you, your kids, friends, random people eating a roti canai stumped with you suddenly approaching them randomly, hoping to inspire them and maybe even scare them shitless and having fun doing it too. but really, do savor the best.

but well, let's just face it, without all the intensity, the pressure, the always changing guest list, the unconfirmed photographers, the confusing wedding programs, the sudden ADDING to more programs... you wont be able to look back and tell yourself 'I went through a LOT of shit to get married... but for all i know, it's damn worth it'.

i've been through dinners, presents, hugs, speeches both received and given. some are sad knowing that i'll leave my bachelor life, some are inspiring, some are borderline annoying, some are just... annoying. eheh. but all in good times. of course i have all the pictures but i'll post it later soon.

lastly, i love my wife, so much, and Dayana, thank you... for loving me and accepting me the way i am. i will try my best to improve myself to be a better muslim, husband, father for our family everyday.

thank you.

Moments of Stupidity....

I guess... once in a while, normal human would go through moments of stupidity. no matter how cool a person think they are, smooth, diva shaits... you cant deny it. we're only human and eventually, a hot girl could still pass some gas in an elevator and not get away with it.

the past few weeks i've seen some moments of stupidity... of which, i was sadly involved in some.

Case #1

I was cutting up fresh fish for our BBQ. A LOT of fish. got really tired at one point, plus havent done it for a while so it took me a bit of time to figure out how to gut them. then i saw something in the fish. i wasnt sure if it was the eggs or not. i love fish eggs. called up to my housemate.

for comprehensible reason for my readers... the language used was bruneian, and not translated to TV malay.

Me: Dude... ini telur or paru2?
Housemate: hmmm... i think its telur man...

2 hours after that moment...

Housemate: Dude... what'd u ask me earlier on the fish?
Me: ini telur or paru2?
Housemate: dude... ikan tak ada paru2.

Moment of Stupidity... Dong Dong (sound of a church bell like law and order)

Case #2

We were preparing BBQ fire the next night. yes... we decided to have bbq two nites in a row. one of my housemates called up our friend to come by and join us.

Housemate: Jom cepat la... ramai orang kat sini. Makanan tinggal nak masak jek, kitorang dah bakar api.

for those who hasnt notice... read the sentence again... at the last two words. you dont burn fire....

Moment of Stupidity... dong dong

Case #3

I was at another BBQ (yes... we have a LOT of BBQ to fill our time here in this place. was having dinner, my friend was sweating across the table and her friend helped her out by drying her sweat with the given tissues.

we were chatting all along laughing and all... then i knew my mouth was a bit oily. grabbed my tissue to clean up. about a fraction of seconds after that incident, i realized that i did not get a tissue earlier from that same table

Moment of stupidity... dong dong

Case #4

my friend was talking to his friend on the phone to check on the bbq we were gonna do. but at the same time, there was some rain that could actually compromise our bbq. his question was 'weh, jadi ke tak hujan ni?'. my friend answered 'well... i'll check with God if he has other plans'.

Moment of stupidity... dong dong

TV and Reality....

People often get mixed between Reality and TV life. some people think the Jason from the Friday the 13th, or Mike Myers from Halloween, or Leatherface from Texas Chainsaw are horror movie that would come to life. some people believe that you can really fly by just using your thought if you focus really well. most cases, they end up either in the hospital mending their broken bones, or in another hospital mending their short circuit up there.

sad thing is, the Malaysian culture overall, succumbs to TV terribly (and yes I'm one of them but trying my best to control myself). Honestly, I try my best to not watch MTV anymore. i remember as a kid i used to want to find out, who's the artist of the month, or how does Eminem's new music video look like. but somehow,

as i grew throughout the years, i realized most of that are just another attempt to create a world where people are branded like cattles whether you're pretty or ugly or just plain both. whether you're an awesome player with great game getting chicks numbers like 'Key to the VIP', and you have talk shows coming from celebrities telling their viewers like 'Marriage is a big mistake, look at us, we're mid 30s and still having our way of life with women and booze. all you have is a wife getting fatter and 3 kids'.

one thing that differentiates us and them is our unique culture, and religion. these two are the two main things that will probably be the last reminder for us and our children of tomorrow to always look back at your morals, and your way of life instead of the westerners.

remind ourselves and especially kids under 23, the ones who are usually at the peak of their teen life to live life, but still accordingly. you dont just go run into a Bank and scream to the top of your lungs 'I am LIVING IT!!' with a devil hand sign up front.

I myself slip up too sometime, but yes i will try to be the best.
I slip up too... but i try my best to be a better person. Do remind the others :).

Reality TV....

Speaking of reality, well American Idol is coming to the end. Akademi Fantasia has already ended. those who know me, knows i dont bother to follow the update of AF. i'm not being anti malaysian and all, but the voting system and culture has always been askew. it's more of a popularity vote rather than real talent, and performance on the actual day.

American Idol makes you vote after the show ended to ensure you see the whole show, and vote wisely and you have a space of 2 hours to vote.

Akademi Fantasia makes you vote continuously on a certain day based on percentage that you see on the screen and immediately after the last show of the week, the voting is closed. now, where's the fairness in that? I can talk on and on about the voting mentality and culture but let's just let it be.

let's talk about American Idol. Kris, Danny and Lambert. great artists and they really put up a good fight. I'm usually more interested to see in what Kris does as almost always, he'll do a song he chose and make it sound like it's his. that's what's amazing bout him. Adam is definitely good, but most of the song he sings is quite close to the original.

but... all in all... this season had a lot of supergood contestants. for those who dont know, go to youtube, and search for 'Clef Hangers'. It's Anoops old acapella group from his alma mater. check out I'll Make Love to you. pretty awesome.

Extreme Chess!!!

Well I just got back from Miri for a Sports event that was organized but the corporation i work for. didnt play anything but nevertheless, i made a point to come and support anyway. there was netball, football, hockey, then... there was chess.

I was trying to figure out how to cheer for the chess team but then found out that no noise is allowed in the room where the competition is held. the competition is superbly intense. fun to watch but intense. i wanted to cheer so badly and also though how would the cheer look like if noise was really allowed in the room.

Commentator A: Player A has done the move of putting his fingers and tapping it on his lips! what a good psyche towards the opponent.

Commentator B: Wait a minute Commentator A, Player B is suddenly intensifying his fidgeting movement. We maaaay have got something good in play pretty soon.

Commentator A: Player A has started his move. Oh! Graceful check done by the black knight assisted by the queen on the right and bishop on the left.

Commentator B: Wow! A great interception by player B! Something truly unexpected! Player B sacrificed his Rook and Bishop but supported by his knight while his queen is getting ready to start the attack anytime Player A drops down his guard.

Commentator A: What an intense Game!! with the endless ticking clock and the light tapping of the clock by the players, it doesnt get better than this!!

simultaneously, every movement you have the stupid guys who paint 'C.H.E.C.K' on their belly and pulls up their shirt everytime there's a check. and does a wave to piss off the opponent by doing waves. At times you'll have a hot girl who suddenly just strips down half naked and hugs the players having to be escorted by the officials immediately.

now... that is extreme chess....